Turkish men love to gossip


Sunday 13 December, 2015 by Uncle Spike

Putting the world to rights…

That’s a strange old saying I’ll admit. It’s one I heard many times over growing up, and certainly something that is pretty well spot-on for Turkish male society. According to one dictionary I checked, they put the definition as this:

“To have a conversation with someone in which you exchange opinions on a range of subjects, especially opinions on how to solve society’s problems”

In our culture, and particularly the rural setting, or urban areas where migration from rural districts is rife, it’s the women who are often found to be the grafters and thereby the realists, whereas us men are the gossips. Sexist this may be (in either direction): I mean no harm or to cause any offence. It’s just an observation; but those who know our culture might even agree…

We have coffee or tea houses throughout this part of the world. You’ll see them packed, mostly with men, playing card or tile games, and err, well, just gossipping… about not a lot I guess too, but of course, every solution possible to every ail known to man or beast I’m sure is thought up over a small pot of caffeine.

It’s not just the tea houses either, we gather on street corners, and even chat over the simple act of shoe-shining!




Me? I chose not to partake… it’s not my thing really. I’m a home-hermit, living and working on my rural farm, and rarely seeing a soul. I get out perhaps once a week to the local shop for supplies, but sometimes it’s been known for me not to speak to another adult member of society for weeks on end (as my wife works away, so just the company of kiddo of an evening before bedtime).

I’m a naturalised Türk. In many ways I’m described as more Turkish than the locals, except for the tea house thing, that is 😀


8 thoughts on “Turkish men love to gossip

  1. Gerald Brenan explained in ‘South from Granada’ “…almost every Spanish peasant becomes wise when he passes fifty.”

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  2. dayphoto says:

    I’m a home-hermit also.


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  3. Turkish coffee is very tasty, but I should imagine a bit tough on the stomach if drunk in great quantity. Perhaps the men can’t stop talking because all that caffeine has made their tongues hyperactive!

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    • Uncle Spike says:

      Maybe nearer the truth than you think. In a normal day, many folk will have the following:

      Breakfast, çay (tea), x 4, served strong, black, with 2-4 sugars).
      Mid-morning, Turkish coffee, x 1, served strong, black, with 2-4 sugars)
      Afternoon, çay (tea), x 2-3, served strong, black, with 2-4 sugars)
      After dinner, çay (tea), x 3-5, served strong, black, with 2-4 sugars)
      Before bed, Turkish coffee, x 1, served strong, black, with 2-4 sugars)
      That’s the truth… seen it many times. 🙂

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      • Sounds like my granny. She lived off strong coffee with piles of sugar, plus cream cakes, was still running for buses into her late eighties, talked nineteen-to-the-dozen, kept her marbles to the end, and finally died aged 98. If I drank that much coffee and had a diet like that, I’d probably be dead in a year.

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  4. Yvonne says:

    You answered the question I wanted to ask … you’re a non-gossiper.

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