Anti-Social Media (?)


Sunday 20 July, 2014 by Uncle Spike

Social Media; the bane or backbone of modern existence. See it how you will, we have ALL been dragged willingly or with tacit reticence into this bizarre age of instant electronic inhuman sources of gratification. When I say all, maybe not everyone on this planet of ours, sure, but if you are reading this blog post… need I say more?




I happily admit to enjoying the whole social media thing. It’s added a new ‘social’ dimension to my life as what you can only describe as a semi-hermit, albeit a clean and relatively tidy one. I live in quiet existence away from most societal ties, and apart from a few hours between the kid arriving home from school around 5:00pm and his bedtime, I often spend days on end without seeing a soul as my wife works away. In fact, when she and kiddo went to Ankara for a month once, I just talked a couple of times a day to our farm dog outside, and none else during that whole time 🙂 Suits me though. I very much enjoy good company, but not for company’s sake.


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But what I do wonder about is the effect that social media is making to the very fabric of human society. I’m no sociologist, philosopher or even a learned chap, far from it, but when you see some folk completely, and I mean completely, immersed in nothing but their smartphone, tablet and laptop, I kind of wonder where it is taking us, as a species that is. We are, after all, a social creature by nature (even if I am not, lol), so how will this pan out in say 50 years time?


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Yeah I know the following also arrived in my world via social media, namely BookFace, but this short video is really very good, thought provoking and brutally honest. I’d be interested to hear, via this social media of course, what you think – especially if you are under 25, as most of your adulthood will have occurred under this social media umbrella (when compared to us old farts).

Click on the image below – the short video will make you think!




44 thoughts on “Anti-Social Media (?)

  1. aj vosse says:

    AaaaaHH it has taken over!! I’ve often said to my good wife that it’s either me of FB… yet, she still has FB!! Oh well, maybe I should come out there and join you… then we don’t have to talks as we toil away in the sunshine of blog inby candlelight! 😉


  2. brashygirl says:

    Reblogged this on Write Brain Dump and commented:
    My 20-year-old daughter told me about a rule her group of friends had while going out to dinner together. Everybody puts their cell phones in the center of the table and the first person who reaches for theirs pays for everybody’s meals. Cell phones untouched; full attention on each other.


  3. I saw this video on Facebook a while ago and watched it several times since – it still makes me cry when I see it the short clip of the two young people growing old. It’s such a powerful message. I think we can make it work to have both in our life – the real world and the virtual one. But when the virtual one becomes an escape rather than an enhancement of the real one something is wrong! I am a kid of the 90s and had my first mobile phone with 14, it was more a brick than a mobile phone! We played with chalk on the street and built tree houses. I am so glad I had this experience, I don’t want to be a kid in today’s time. With access to the internet I think they lose their innocence too quick and don’t have a proper childhood any more. Doesn’t apply to all of them of course, there’s always an exception.


  4. Someone sent me that video previously. Very well done.


  5. Glittermoon says:

    Fantastic. Thanks for sharing both the video and your thoughts. And thanks, also, for visiting my blog so regularly – it is much appreciated! Cackie


  6. Swav says:

    We had a lot of buzz about it in Ireland a couple of months ago… I don’t mind social media, because I keep the balance between on-line and off-line activities, but when I see kids and teenagers addicted to smart phones and walking like a zombies on the foot path, that makes me thinking about the other options they have, but simply can’t see yet.

    Most of us here probably were born in the analogue era, while most of kids nowadays are from the digital one, quick learners, youtube watchers using a couple of devices simultaneously, for them is normal, for us might look strange a bit.

    Like different worlds we still have to find the language to communicate with each other, so the question is, where is the common sense in all that digital, social media, twitting and facebooking thing ?


  7. dunelight says:

    Social Media…I have mixed feelings. It is a boon for the handicapped in that it opens up new worlds for those whom can’t get around easily. It is a way to renew old relationships and find new friends with similar interests. I found grade school friends and extended family I had drifted away from so I now know about the newest baby, their whacky political affiliations and the newest breakup. It’s here to stay and if you don’t have a well coiffed online presence you aren’t gonna get that grant. After a goodly decade of covering my footprints I am anonymous no more.


  8. Jayne Firth says:

    As a few have said, everything in moderation. Certainly makes you think, and it would be a good video to show in schools. I shall be showing it to my daughter! Thanks for sharing.


  9. joannesisco says:

    Great post and great video!


  10. dogs make great listeners 😀


  11. dayphoto says:

    Excellent post, Uncle Spike! Although, I do enjoy my daily conversations with those from around the world…I really don’t need company for company’s sake. Now, when it comes to the camera…I never leave the house without it. 🙂



  12. Norm 2.0 says:

    Everything in moderation I say.
    In most countries social media has replaced television as the number one time-wasting activity, primarily because it is interactive and it helps feed our basic human need for approval from others.
    If discussions like this and videos such as the one you posted can encourage people to take another look at their own behavior, then that is a good thing.
    I also believe we need to rethink what we teach young people in school. I’d like to see every young person come out of school with a better understanding of how these social media tools work from the back end, what they are designed to do, and how marketers use them to influence our behavior for someone else’s benefit.
    This was a good thought-provoking post.

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  13. shedgepeth says:

    I love this! I have lately been feeling that society relies more on phones, laptops, tablets, etc. instead of each other. People seem to have lost the ability to communicate face to face, especially in the younger generation. It’s almost as if it takes too much time to have a conversation, when a simple hello is all you need:)


  14. Dragnfli says:

    …as I read this on my iPhone.
    My favorite place to vacation is somewhere the cell phone service doesn’t reach. But, electronic devices are the way my dad and I usually communicate. So, I stay connected most of the time.


  15. Ese' s Voice says:

    Must admit a couple of years ago I couldn’ t imagine myself leaving home without my mobile but now…no, I wouldn’ t return back to get it realising it was forgotten. I have made my peace leaving mobile for phone-calls, camera for taking photos and laptop for writing emails so that i don’ t spend all of my time sticked to one “gadget” that keeps me online 24/7. Realising that we can sit with friends and have a laugh from bottom of our hearts, seing every wrinkle in our faces, also touch them and don’ t have an urge for “on spot” selfies and LOL’ s texted around. I enjoy to see my friends playing ball with their children outside, going for hikes, biking and discovering places, rading and painting, and – yes, watching a movie together and it makes me happy NOT to see them online. And, to be honest, I do feel sad for the kids, whose parents have their “navel cords” in one or another way attached to internet every second of a day.
    I also realise there are so many lonely people all around the world – seeking for understanding, communication, appreciation, admiration…all sorts of “-ations…and hardly realising how volatile they are. And how much more lonely they turn them into. In real life.


    • Uncle Spike says:

      It’s a dilemma for the lonely sure; craving friendship, albeit distanced and safe. That’s a different angle all together I think…. said he who is home-alone typing this response on a blog; but on a laptop, got no smartphone 🙂


      • Ese' s Voice says:

        I am not a saint myself, far from it but…yes, won’ t lose consciousness leaving home without my mobile. 🙂 And I have “tried” to live a month without blogging – also survived and rather easily. 😀


  16. Reblogged this on sarahpotterwrites and commented:
    This is a most thought-provoking post from Uncle Spike who lives on an isolated farm in Turkey and spends a great deal of time on his own . Do take time to listen/watch the video that goes with this post. It made me think very hard about how we all get sucked into the whole addiction to electronics thing. Wishing you a lovely Sunday, and make sure to talk to someone today while looking them in the eye!


  17. Really thought provoking. I’d already decided to go for a long walk today, in the sunshine with my daughter. I’ll take my mobile but keep it in my bag! Before I go, I’ll try re blogging your post as I think it’s a very important message, but if I don’t succeed, it’s because I’m computerless this weekend and have borrowed my daughter’s iPad for a moment. I keep pressing all the wrong things, so may end up doing the re blog next week. PS I talk to my dog all the time as women just have to talk — a great deal!!!


    • Uncle Spike says:

      Hehe, like it.

      I just shouted out the window at the dog, does that count? I’m at home indoors as its 39 and fasting and sun don’t mix well for more than 4 hours (wife and kiddo at beach with friends).


  18. Shana Rae says:

    There was a story in our local paper of a guy who broke into a house to steal a mobile phone because he desperately wanted to contact his girlfriend on farcebook, that is beyond obsession.


  19. Granny Spike says:

    What happened to old fashioned telephone calls, we knew about our friends and relatives in those days but thankfully I see my family on skype and enjoy them though miles apart, Thanks to that bit of technology


  20. lizard100 says:

    I too think about the impact of ‘social media’ however I’m not clear where the source of the problem lies. I don’t know whether people have been very face to face social in the west for around forty years. Growing up in the UK in the 1970s, we went to school, our parents worked and when we came home we had tea watched TV and went to bed. Interaction with other people was pretty low. Now as an international person social media are lifelines for me. When I moved abroad originally no one would phone because of the cost. It was very isolated. I start to dispute whether we would be more social without the digital tools.


  21. rabirius says:

    You see it more and more often – people sitting in a bar or café together – not talking, but doing things with their mobile. I think this really is anti social.
    Therefore I think one need to find the right balance, because, naturally, it is a good way to find information, or keep in touch with people living far away.


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